Check out our NEW Weekly Blog Post written by our Tired Mothers Community Members about their experience as a Mom
Mommin' ain't easy! And sharing about the ups & downs of parenting is what our Online Community is all about!! We have asked our Members to fill out our 6 relatable interview questions in order for us to get more vulnerable and honest about what it takes to keep your chin up and spirits high when the going gets tough...
This week we interviewed TTM Member Amie W.
She is a Mom of 3 active & curious boys who keep her more than busy, while she also manages to maintain a large business, multiple entrepreneurial pursuits, and long time marriage to her high school sweetheart. As a multi-passionate and multi-talented Mother, Amy seems to somehow do it all when looking in from the outside.
How did becoming a parent change you the most?
I think becoming a parent radically changed my own awareness of my sensory system and how I had ignored my own needs long before becoming a parent. My children are highly sensitive and it's taught me so much about myself. I've also realized I am more resilient than I would've imagined.
What advice would you give to a new mom?
I love the thought of when there are too many voices coming at you for those "shoulds" that it's okay to quietly do what feels right in your heart at the moment. I often thought about what I would do if I lived as a pioneer or a Mom in a village who couldn't Google advice. Sometimes it was deeply clarifying and often led me to a gentler more attuned approach to parenting and attachment and looking for gentle trusted voices in my community.
What has been your biggest parenting challenge?
I think the biggest challenge so far has been the constant need for co-regulation and to be needed so intensely. Though it's shifting, I think I'll carry that part of parenting with me and feel it was so bittersweet with all the sweetness and all of the overwhelm.
What have you learned about yourself from becoming a parent?
I learned that I am a 'flexible seeming' individual who actually has some pretty rigid tendencies [haha]. I definitely also noticed that parenting highlights my struggle with executive function for daily tasks and organization and that aspect of nurturing a family is an immense struggle for me.
What has been the most difficult part of being a mother?
I adore being a Mom, but what an intense season. It's easy to feel like the demands of attending to so many little ones is pushing me under water. The intense decade long sleep deprivation has also pushed my own system into triage mode so I realize more than ever that it's not selfish to actually set aside time for your own health or it catches up to you.
What would you say makes you the most tired as a mother?
Other than legitimate physical fatigue, which is very highlighted over here, I would say that my biggest aspect of emotional fatigue is the struggle with sibling dynamics as we have a spicy mix of needs here and my capacity as a peacemaker and problem solver is at max much of the time.
Parenting has been my biggest challenge, but also the most rewarding season of life. I know the years are flying and there is a mix of grief and gratitude once more as I see seasons slipping away too fast and others emerging with fresh ways to celebrate alongside new challenges. I am grateful for community and growth as an individual and have much still to learn.
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