In today’s fast-paced world, Mothers are shouldering an ever-increasing amount of responsibilities, and it's showing in many different ways leaving Moms mentally drained & exhausted.
The demands of modern motherhood are leaving many feeling utterly drained. There’s even a term used for it called “Mommy Burn-out", and no this isn’t pulling a break stand in your minivan and peeling out in a trail of smoke...this is more like the smoke you feel pouring out of your ears in those moments of sheer frustration!
Let's explore some reasons why moms are feeling so tired and what we can do about it.
Juggling Act: My Circus & My Monkeys
We’ve become experts at juggling many roles simultaneously. As an exhausted Mom we are chauffeurs, chefs, homemakers, career professionals, coaches, teachers, and more. Trying to balance these different responsibilities while trying to maintain some sort of balance is a monumental task and can leave many feeling flat-out exhausted with nothing left for themselves.
Increased Workload
Taking into consideration that more Moms today are a part of the workforce than in previous generations, it's5654rrrrrrrrrrrrrr apparent that navigating our way through maintaining perfect harmony at work and at home can seem nearly impossible and feel very overwhelming.
The Digital Age
Moms are endlessly bombarded with emails, text messages, cell phone calls, DM’s, news and social media its no surprise that we are feeling challengeed to disconnect from it all and find the precious downtime we need and deserve.
Pressure for Perfection
Needless to say – we are not provided with a real life filter and behind it all it’s always the real deal! Unfortunately at times when the pressure that society has put on us to appear “perfect”, it can lead to many having feelings of inadequacy, comparison, constant worrying and sleepless nights.
Constantly striving for perfection is emotionally and mentally draining.
Support is Limited
With less extended families living together these days, we do not receive the same level of support from our family members as we did in past times. That leaves us to rely on paid childcare and day care services which creates more financial burdens and another level of stress.
Mental & Emotional Management
Moms are often the emotional anchor and teether in their family providing supportive advice, mediation to conflicts, soothing of upsets, mending of hearts, planning of futures, and overall maintenance of relationships. This is emotionally taxing and some Moms are really feeling it.
Sleep Deprivation is a thing
Mothers are no stranger to interrupted sleep, and not getting any sleep at all! A messy bun and coffee/tea are the staples of many a Mama. Chronic sleep deprivation has a significant impact on overall energy levels and will eventually take its toll on your mental and physical ability to keep up with it all.
Mom Guilt
When I first heard this phrase it made so much sense to me. I have a constant feeling of not doing enough and my to-do list seems endless. I can certainly relate to other Moms feeling like they don’t spend enough time with their children (because you have to work!), didn’t cook a healthy enough meal (because you didn’t have enough time!), didn’t buy them a nice enough outfit (because you didn’t have enough money!). Even though we know the reason why we couldn’t do something, and it’s a good reason! But we still beat ourselves up about it, and its never a good feeling.
Some of the things you can do to increase your feelings of wellbeing and life balance are:
-find some time for yourself in the day wherever you can (lock that bathroom door!)
-trying to get as much sleep as possible (NO guilt Mama - naps are a good thing!)
-talk it out with SOMEONE and vent a little whenever possible
-put down your phone, and have a little social media break
-ask for some help from someone close to you, or a professional
In Conclusion
Modern day Mother’s exhaustion is caused by so many different things, originating from the demands of our rapidly changing world. Trying to keep up with it all can seem difficult and for some, its nearly impossible at this point.
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